Ok, so Waverly saw a show today that talked about adoption , so she brought up adoption with me.
She is technically adopted by my DH, she is not biologically his, we have been together since before I knew I was pregnant.
This is a touchy topic for us, I mean we just wish it wasn't what is was if that makes sense.
BUT we had decided that we would not hide this from her, that we would make it a natural part of her reality.
So today I rolled with it as best I could, as hard as it was. And now shes talking about adoption and how her daddy loved her SOOOO much he wanted to adopt her, etc etc.
I feel a little sick over it, but I think I am relieved as well, I broke the ice, I laid the foundation for many talks to come. sigh.
this is what we intended to do, hard as it was, hard as its going to be I need to keep telling myself I did the right thing.
*I did the right thing*
The picture has nothing to do with that, its her winking, lol. Shes proud she can wink and I can't.lol
Sounds like you took some important steps today! Way to stick to your decision! At least she never has need to question whether she is loved!
ReplyDeleteI think it's best to have it as a part of her backdrop of life from as early as possible Hep...I think it's the healthiest option. It in no way means he loves her less or is less her father. He's Daddy. Who else bakes her delightfully cheesy dinners, or builds a computer for her at age three? D a d d y did that :) She'll know he's her real dad even if she knows he did not father her. *hugs*
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